Addiction is about Hiding. Recovery is about Coming Out of Hiding.
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- ADDICTION IS HIDING. It goes something like this, “I can get away with it just this one time.”
- The only chance one has to recover is to go through therapy — in the ABSENCE of drugs or alcohol. Only in this way, will the brain repair and heal itself.
- Individual or group therapy — while someone is still drinking or using drugs — is completely pointless, costly, and ineffective.
- One must stop drinking or taking drugs for any form of therapy to be useful.
- This is the only way to produce psychological change – and repairs to the brain — sufficient to cause lasting behavioral changes.
- COMING OUT OF HIDING. Monitoring provides a psychological deterrent at the moment the thought about drinking or taking drugs comes to mind.
- While being monitored, the thought is often replaced with, “I better not. I might get caught. And, I really don’t want to lose what I have already accomplished so far.”
- Often, it is that brief thought, this deterrent, that allows the person to find the strength in that moment — and not use drugs or drink alcohol that day.
- Essentially, by focusing on the moment, it helps you get through this challenge. Getting through provides the strength and the motivation to not use drugs or drink alcohol. And, it provides more time for your brain to heal.
- And, when you are clean today, you now have a chance to be clean tomorrow!
By providing the psychological deterrent, the tools for monitoring, a Circle of Support and a way to celebrate your successes, the Hayver system helps you come out of hiding, and realize a full recovery.
Don’t Go It Alone … Surrender and Recover.
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- Surrender is not the act of quitting. It’s from an old Anglo-French word surrendre meaning: to give over or deliver over.
- In psychological terms it means to render one’s mind open to new thoughts.
- Surrender is a term often used in recovery lexicon and often misunderstood by clients and therapists alike.
- The therapist claims to the patient, “Have you surrendered?” or better yet, “You need to surrender!”. The client will often be heard to say, “I’ve surrendered”, or “I can’t do this any longer, I give up.”
- But, that’s not correct.
- Surrender isn’t necessarily an actual event, but much more of a state of mind, basically a previously ‘unexperienced’ openness.
- Moreover, the act of surrendering occurs subconsciously.
- Surrendering provides a new open-mindedness and, with it, a new willingness to experience openness.
- Additionally, new thoughts and behaviors now seem to occur without mental conflict or effort.
- It’s easy to spot in others due to their willingness to try new experiences.
- This can occur in any human, not just an alcoholic or addict.
- Unfortunately, most ‘subconscious surrendering’ occur after much pain and suffering. It’s just the way it is, it’s part of the human condition. We resist change until there is no other option.
- And, as we know, people just don’t change because their life is going well!
- In describing their journey, most alcoholics who are now in long-term recovery, describe their life as reaching a point of “incomprehensible demoralization” (surrender event). That is, the’ end of the line’, ‘the end of their rope’, ‘seeing no way out’.
- These people then “found” themselves in a new place, with a new willingness to do ‘whatever it takes’ to get into recovery.
- That willingness to take a new direction, to change, is vital to the effectiveness of 12-step programs.
- Most people are incapable of recovery in 12-step programs when there is no willingness or they do have have an open mind to change.
- The positive reinforcement that one receives from daily monitoring in the Hayver program helps to build confidence that you have chosen the new, right path.
Once you have turned the corner, make sure your willingness to change is positively reinforced every day. In this way, you have the opportunity to still be clean in 5 years. With positive reinforcement, you can be a part of the 78% Team.
Compliance Builds Strength and Fortitude.
And the Circle of Support Can Celebrate Your Successes!
- Compliance is not recovery. But recovery does involve being compliant.
- It is usually simple to be compliant in a treatment center.
- Follow the rules, don’t use drugs or alcohol, submit to random screens for drugs and alcohol, and sit in on, and participate in, group or individual therapy sessions.
- This time allows the brain to begin to heal.
- Most people do well in this setting, while a minority will continue to use alcohol or drugs while in treatment.
- The difficulty begins the moment you leave a treatment environment.
- This is the case, whether you are on a therapeutic leave (several days at home away from the treatment center or recovery residence), or after your final discharge when you are permanently back at home.
- On a therapeutic leave, there is the prior knowledge that you will be drug and alcohol tested upon return to the treatment center. This knowledge is often sufficient to keep you from using alcohol or drugs during those several days.
- But what about after the FINAL discharge? What then? Often, you are told “good luck”, and go to your 12-step meetings.
- At this point, most people are without a defense against the first drink. And, your brain is not yet fully healed.
- Many people will drink or use drugs again within the next ninety days. But it doesn’t have to be that way for you.
- The daily possibility of a random drug screen is a proven and effective psychological deterrent to using alcohol or drugs – and with Hayver, that deterrent is there every day, supporting and celebrating your success.
Daily compliance and monitoring is essential. Based on brain research studies and the lifelong chronic nature of alcoholism and addiction, two or more years of monitoring is an absolute requirement.
“I’ve been so impressed with the simplicity and ease of use for the system.”
“Being able to choose my Circle of Support was very important to me.”
“I’m telling everyone in my 12-step group.”
“This is a way to remind me every day, and encourage me, to make good choices.”
Not Punishment, but a Celebration of Your Success!
Together, We Can!
- You may feel, initially, that this program is punishment for your previous behavior.
- Please be very clear of the intention of this Aftercare Program. It is not punishment.
- The Hayver Program, with daily monitoring and the Circle of Support, is a vital tool for combating the inherent psychological effects of addictive and alcoholic thinking.
- And, most importantly, it gives the brain time to repair and heal itself.
- The Hayver Program is a tool for breaking through denial, exposing covert behaviors (those things you are hiding from others), and preventing slip ups.
- By providing an immediate psychological deterrent, through the random possibility of being tested for drugs or alcohol, you support the continued effort towards long-term recovery.
- This is the same type of aftercare treatment that medical professionals and pilots receive, for them to regain their licenses.
- These programs for licensed professionals have a proven, five-year success rate.
- Now everyone, including you, can benefit from a proper, effective aftercare monitoring program.
- By embracing the importance and necessity of this program, and the power it has in allowing your brain the time it needs to repair and heal, you will succeed.
- The Hayver Program is like “insurance” against slip ups after recovery, providing the daily monitoring and Circle of Support you need.
- Once you embrace the process of healing your brain, then recovery has truly started.
Positive reinforcement, a strong deterrent via random screening, and a daily opportunity for your Circle of Support to celebrate your success, are all key to your long-term recovery. Together, we can!
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Check In when it fits your schedule, any time day or night, online 24/7. Available 7 days a week, round-the-clock
The system only tells your Circle of Support whether you have checked in daily, and the results of your random urine testing
CIRCLE OF SUPPORT
You choose YOUR Circle of Support — and only you and your supporters know who is part of your team
VIEW YOUR PROGRESS
Easy-to-read graphs let you know your progress in meeting your Daily Check-In goals
Check In is under a minute. Click on the button, and you’re done! Fast, easy and convenient via any device
5-DAY URINE TESTING
With an easy-to-use cup, check your urine for drugs or alcohol in the last 5 to 10 days
The random urine testing is set by the system, based on your history, with spot checks added, as needed, by your Circle of Support
Now your loved ones can celebrate your success by viewing your consistent daily check in behavior
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